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10 Ways to Break Up with your Roommate

All though we all wish that our roommate is going to be our best friend, the best man or maid of honor at our wedding, it doesn’t always turn out like that. Disappointment can happen with anyone – your best friend or a random roommate. Sometimes you just gotta break up with them. Here are ten ways to do that and survive:

1. Text them

You hate confrontation? It’s understandable – no one likes to crush someone’s hopes and dreams. If you wanna be that guy, just send them a quick text.  They’ll probably forgive you.

2. Take them to Lunch

There is no better way to soften the blow of heartbreak than a full belly. Take them out to Buns, get them a good burger, and wait until their mouth is full so they can’t say anything back.

3. Use your RA to Set Up a Meeting

Sometimes you need a mediator. If you don’t mind having another person to listen to the conversation, they could help soften the blow. Who knows? Maybe with the RA there, you can work out your differences and be roomies after all.

4. Send them this Blog Post

‘Nuff said.

5. Tell them they should go to the Roommate Mixer.

Casually send them this video and see what they say.

6. Lie

Tell them you’re moving far far away and can never see them again. You’re OBVIOUSLY  going to miss them but a long distance relationship would never work out.

7. “It’s not you, it’s me!”

This is actually pretty valid. Not every pair is meant to live together. Sometimes the person you’re living with is great, but you just can’t handle the fact they leave your room a mess. Sometimes you just have really specific needs they can’t handle. If you have a weird pet peeve, it’s obviously not their fault, you just need to find someone to satisfy you.

8. Tell them a Joke

“Knock knock.”

“Who’s there?”

“Not your roommate!”

Burn.

9.Make them Dump You

Just be so bad that they tell you they want a new roommate.

“Oh really? That’s too bad, but it’s probably for the best.”

10. Be Honest and Real

Okay, numbers 1-9 may or may not be the best ways to break up with your roommate. More than anything, you just need to be honest with them. Remember, they are people too, and you guys have already had a pretty unique experience together. They deserve to be told kindly. Just sit them down one day and tell them exactly why you guys working out. Not to mention, if you’ve been feeling kind of bad about rooming together, chances are, they feel the same way. It’s only awkward if you make it awkward.

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That’s it, folks. Obviously some of these are a little more light-hearted – and that’s just to let you know that this process doesn’t have to be the most stressful thing in the world. Be nice, be respectful, and just do what you gotta do.

On the other hand, if you find yourself on the side of being dumped, really consider coming to the roommate mixer on November 6th on the Great Hall hosted by Carolina Housing. It will be in the style of speed dating where you get a chance to ask someone a lot of questions in a limited amount of time before moving to the next person! It’ll be a really fun, and even if you don’t find your roommate, you’ll definitely find some friends.

Good luck!

How to Meet People in your Residence Hall

There are 29,084 students enrolled in the University of National Champions. You would think that it would be easy enough to find at least ONE friend, right? Wrong! For some of us, making friends is an art that we’re just not any good at. Whether it be social anxiety, shyness, or the case of the classic dorm room shut-in, there are many ways we can feel isolated. The bad thing about being in such a big university  is that makes you feel that much smaller. The easiest way to whittle down your candidates is looking in your residential community. Here’s how!

SO. MUCH. BLUE!

Think Small

Start with your roommate and suitemates! These two are the first and easiest friends you’re going to make in college. You see them every day and you live together! If we’re cooking up a recipe for friendship, these are like the salt and pepper of the recipe! You can’t go wrong! Do fun things with them! Go out to parties, have movie nights, spa nights, game nights, football nights, gym nights, truth or dare nights, etc. If you’re unsure how to break the ice, buy a pizza to share with everyone or make dinner for them!

Two roommates having a good time!

The main takeaway is that you need to engage in conversation! If you do your own thing (which I have), chances are it’ll just get harder and harder to start the interaction and the next thing you know, it’s the end of the year, you kinda hate each other, and have also never spoken (which I have also experienced). Not ideal. Make friends out of your roommates and you’ll thank me later.

Join Community Government

These are like-minded individuals from your community who want to get together to organize fun things for everyone else. Not only will you bond with your other COGO members, but you’ll meet nearly everyone else in your community who come to your events. After a while, you’ll get a few regulars. Once you remember names, that’s it! You’re already friends!This is a quick and clean way to put yourself in a sphere of influence! Have fun with it!

Community Events

Alternatively, do the things that COGO and the RAs have planned for you! If there’s food,  there’s broke college students! Fact of life! Bond over this! Your RA and COGO is going out of its way to facilitate conversation for you! Use this to your advantage!

Know Your Neighbors

Last night, some girls came over to my suite and told us they had a bunch of left-over food to share and invited us to come over. Immediately, I wanted to be their friend. It is so easy to meet the people around you. Just knock next door, say, “Hey, I’m so and so, it’s nice to meet you!” You should do this anyway at least to know who to yell at when they’re being too loud!

I recognize that some of these things are easier said than done, but they should be done none the less. Friends are an investment for your happiness and well-being. You have to put a little work into them. The profit, however? Priceless. 🙂

If you have any other ideas, let us know in the comments below!

Room(ie) For You

How to share your home away from home.

Ah, the start of back-to-school season.

The idea of having a roommate is probably starting to sink in.

If you’re nervous- don’t worry! I asked some fellow Heels for some advice about what they’ve learned from living from a roommate, and what knowledge they could pass on to you.

This is a picture of my roommate and I… It was Halloween okay don’t judge!!!

Getting to know your roommate

“In some way, get into a conversation where you start talking about T.V. shows or music. And that’s a really good icebreaker because it’s just like, everyone likes music or T.V.” -Joy L.

It seems like there’s a lot of pressure to make the perfect first impression for your roommate. Every person engages in the media in some way, so you’re bound to find a way to bond. You can learn a lot about your roommate from their tastes, and potentially find your new favorite band!

Setting Boundaries with your roommate

“Honestly, communication is so important.You can’t expect that every person is going to be just like you- everyone is different. Everyone has their own quirks, everyone has their own preferences. I’ve made this mistake before- I keep things to myself. But that’s the wrong way to do it ’cause your roommate isn’t a mindreader, you know?” -Fania K.

One of the hardest situations all roommates will face is the inevitable boundary talk. Whether through the RA-given roommate agreement or independently, it’s going to be slightly awkward. Some of the boundaries you set may seem like second nature, but as Fania pointed out, your roommate isn’t a mind reader. Talking out all of rules now will save for a way more awkward conversation later.

Living with someone you already know

“Just be flexible with what happens. Even if you have known [your roommate] for a while, you probably haven’t lived with them. So if you’re rooming with someone that, like, maybe you knew from high school or something- be wary about that. Because that’s when you kind of see, like, a new side to them.” -Jacob P.

Though Jacob’s advice may seem a bit ominous, there is some truth to it. A lot of people who decide to room with a high school friend don’t realize that people are different at home than they are at school. Don’t have a set idea of how your roommate will act in a living situation, and be understanding to the new side you’ll see of your roommate.

Living with someone you don’t agree with

“Don’t take things to heart. Like, don’t be very reactive. ‘Cause, a lot of times people grow up in different environments and so they probably have different ways of communicating.” -Joy L.

You may find that you and your roommate can’t help but be at odds with one another. Joy’s advice is useful with people whose views you don’t agree with in general. Basically, be empathetic and be respectful. Even if you and your roommate don’t mesh well, you won’t run into much trouble if you act like a decent human being.

You don’t have to be best friends with your roommate, but knowing how to live with your roommate can make college less stressful than it has to be.

Picking each other up when we’re feeling down… that’s what froomies are for!!!