There are 29,084 students enrolled in the University of National Champions. You would think that it would be easy enough to find at least ONE friend, right? Wrong! For some of us, making friends is an art that we’re just not any good at. Whether it be social anxiety, shyness, or the case of the classic dorm room shut-in, there are many ways we can feel isolated. The bad thing about being in such a big university is that makes you feel that much smaller. The easiest way to whittle down your candidates is looking in your residential community. Here’s how!
Start with your roommate and suitemates! These two are the first and easiest friends you’re going to make in college. You see them every day and you live together! If we’re cooking up a recipe for friendship, these are like the salt and pepper of the recipe! You can’t go wrong! Do fun things with them! Go out to parties, have movie nights, spa nights, game nights, football nights, gym nights, truth or dare nights, etc. If you’re unsure how to break the ice, buy a pizza to share with everyone or make dinner for them!
The main takeaway is that you need to engage in conversation! If you do your own thing (which I have), chances are it’ll just get harder and harder to start the interaction and the next thing you know, it’s the end of the year, you kinda hate each other, and have also never spoken (which I have also experienced). Not ideal. Make friends out of your roommates and you’ll thank me later.
Join Community Government
These are like-minded individuals from your community who want to get together to organize fun things for everyone else. Not only will you bond with your other COGO members, but you’ll meet nearly everyone else in your community who come to your events. After a while, you’ll get a few regulars. Once you remember names, that’s it! You’re already friends!This is a quick and clean way to put yourself in a sphere of influence! Have fun with it!
Alternatively, do the things that COGO and the RAs have planned for you! If there’s food, there’s broke college students! Fact of life! Bond over this! Your RA and COGO is going out of its way to facilitate conversation for you! Use this to your advantage!
Know Your Neighbors
Last night, some girls came over to my suite and told us they had a bunch of left-over food to share and invited us to come over. Immediately, I wanted to be their friend. It is so easy to meet the people around you. Just knock next door, say, “Hey, I’m so and so, it’s nice to meet you!” You should do this anyway at least to know who to yell at when they’re being too loud!
I recognize that some of these things are easier said than done, but they should be done none the less. Friends are an investment for your happiness and well-being. You have to put a little work into them. The profit, however? Priceless. 🙂
If you have any other ideas, let us know in the comments below!